I’m deviating from my usual topics today, but I think this is just as important as having great hair and a killer won’t-break-the-bank wardrobe! ;)
So… I’m kind of a romantic. I love going on dates and I’m a sucker for just about any sweet gesture. Any one, really! Being “in love” is really important to me. I’ve always told my husband that I don’t want to become an “old married couple.” I want him to hold my hand, kiss me in public, and tell me I’m hot dammit!
After getting married my husband and I were in no rush to have children. We knew we wanted a family eventually but we wanted to fully enjoy “just us” for awhile. I knew a child meant the end of “just us” time and I knew that we wouldn’t get it back for a looooong time after!
My husband and I used to go on regular dates at least once a week and a few trips a year as well. All of our friends with children would say “another trip?” with slightly jealous tones. And I would say, “yes! Why not?”
Having kids is a lifetime commitment. I knew that. And that’s why we waited until we were REALLY ready. I liked how things were for a long time… Then one day I wanted more. It was like a switch just flicked and I was ready to let go of the selfish part of my life. I was READY!
I don’t regret a thing. I couldn’t be happier! Life did change, for the better in most ways…. Except maybe the romance department. ;)
Lately I’ve been thinking I’d really like to kick this up a notch… just one notch! Ha ha! Once wining and dining was a typical evening for us. Now it involves being wrapped around our daughter’s finger for the evening! After we put her to bed we have both slipped into the habit of picking up our phones or turning on the TV. The romance is somehow forgotten in all of that. A few weeks ago my husband made a comment about how much I’m on my phone. And I realized… He’s right.
So I’ve decided to take on a challenge for 2014. I’m bringing the romance back!!!! It’s been a year since our new family member arrived and it’s just in time to make it a New Years resolution!
So here is my challenge:
Two Dates a Month Challenge
Each of us has to come up with 13 (26 total) small and/or big date ideas to spread throughout the year. The date can be as simple as watching a movie together or something extra special, like a fancy dinner out somewhere we’ve never been. You write your dates on a piece of paper, fold them up, and put them in a labeled date jar. Every second Friday I’ll have something to look forward to. Revealing what we draw from the jar will be half the fun!
Hold the phone…. Ya, there’s the kid factor! I’ve decided if we draw a date that involves an outing and we can’t get a babysitter, we’ll figure out when that date can happen and redraw. When you have children you need to be creative and think of date nights that won’t always involve getting a babysitter. Make a fort and watch a movie in it! Play cards, truth or dare, dominoes, Pictionary… Watch the Notebook (hey fellas?), give each other a massage, or have a fondu night. It doesn’t matter what you’re doing as long as you’re make an effort twice a month to spend an evening connecting.
And starting NOW I’m making an effort to put aside my phone, Facebook, and whatever else is distracting me in the evenings. Has anyone else thought about her 2014 resolutions? There’s so much more we can focus on than just your typical food and fitness resolutions to improve the richness of our lives!
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